The silly thing is that the overwhelmed person does not really copy the postulate of the other.
He instead makes his own postulate that can be similar or very different.
The girl might reject a guy because he is not at all the tall and dark movie star type, and she already has a secret lover.
But the rejected guy might decide he is a loser as he always goes broke and cannot afford expensive bikes.
Most people create their own weird reasons for those bad things happening